According to my personal scrutiny, it’s all about ‘Parvarish’ (Upbringing). If a child’s foundation is laid on moral and spiritual aspects and s/he grows up in an all-loving-and-caring environment, s/he will never go astray. Research has proven the fact that ‘all aspects of a man’s life – his character, sense of responsibility, good and bad habits, ability to cope with difficulties, and his piety – are shaped primarily during his childhood. The bright memories of his childhood can strengthen and warm a man during trying times, and, contrarily, those who have not had a happy childhood can in no way remake it.’
A child is a fine amalgamation of both good and bad inclinations. Parents have to guide their kids with patience and love on how to endeavor against negative influences.
In today’s scenario where both the parents are working to draw the wheels of family, parents must bear in mind the following points:
1. Educate yourself. Read journals and articles relating to your child’s age. Search for what child psychology experts have to say about your child’s developments.
2. Be approachable. Let your child be confident about your unfaltering love and support in testing times. Be your child’s best friend. So that he doesn’t go out in order to seek solace.
3. Induce goodness galore. It might sound like an effortless job. But believe me, it’s not. Your child is but a mirror image of what you are.
4. Be humble. These days all are brand conscious. So I cannot really quote “Simple living” here. But surely though “High thinking” plays an essential role here.
5. Quality time. Give your kids quality time. The hours do not count. It’s the pleasure of your company that is of utmost importance to your kids.
Shun TV and computer games completely when you are with your kids.
6. Share your Childhood. Share interesting incidents of your childhood with your kids. Share your weaknesses as well. Let them know that no one is
perfect. In order to motivate your kids cook up stories and enjoy their laughter and angelic smiles.
7. Mother nature. Go to parks. Just take a stroll. Talk about nature-trees, birds, sky, sun, moon. Do not bring in school or home or any other topic related to day-to-day life.
8. Give space. Teenage is the most sensitive of all the phases of life. Children feel they are now adults and have the authority to make a menace of their life. Don’t worry. This is a passing phase. Your child is stepping into adulthood. Treat him like one.
9. Trust. Trust your kids. Do not underestimate them. It won’t take much time for them to revolt if they smell a bit of mistrust or lack of faith in them in your behavior. Involve them. Take his advice on every matter, no matter how big or small it is. So what if you need his suggestion on the color of the towel you wish to buy. 10. Love selflessly. This doesn’t mean making your kid a spoil brat. They must be shown their boundaries beyond which they cannot go. Love has a mammoth power to conquer all. It can do wonders.
11. Slip into his Shoes. In order to find a solution to any problem, put yourself in his place and try to understand his problem.
12. Respect. Self respect plays a vital role in a child’s life who’s is growing. Discuss any objectionable behavior of your child in private and with him. Do not ever insult him publicly. Believe me, these incidents leave such deep-seated impressions on their mind and soul that is just enough to blow off all your expectations.
I am not an expert in this regard. The above mentioned points are an outcome of my personal experiences and observations. My motif is just to help parents love and understand their children wholeheartedly as well as to provide a guidance to them so that our children get right kind of ambiance for their growth and development. Hoping the best for our kids. All the best.