She’s the one…
Ain’t they beautiful?
Happy in their ambivalent life…
It’s Sunday morning. Can’t say ‘a lazy one’ because I have my guitar classes on this day and I don’t mind the 2 hour long drive as those 40 minutes bring eternal peace to my mind and soul. On my way to the music school there’s a traffic signal from where I take a right turn. Why did I mention this signal? Reason number one- Every Sunday I am stuck in traffic light invariably. Reason number two- I see little kids in shabby clothes selling fresh roses and bouquets there. I see these kids begging people to buy their flowers, I see them being shouted at, I see them being shooed away like stray animals on road, I see them squabbling with their parents and siblings, I see them washing their faces with water in the peak of summer and getting slapped on that face that had just felt the balmy effect of cold water due to shortage of cold drinking water.
Amidst the hurricane of events I come in contact with these children and we connect. All we offer each other is the curve that straightens all crumpled matters… a smile. It’s quite strange that they came only once to me with a red rose that I bought instantly. Today also we smiled at each other. The little girl was knocking at the window panes and pleading each driver to buy her flowers. I had the urge to take her picture. The only reason was her contented smile. She was shy. Her mother said to her, “Go, get your picture clicked”. With wavering steps she advanced towards me. Suddenly, an 8 year old boy popped out of the blue right in front of my open window, hugged the girl and said, “Ma’am, take my picture with my sister.” I can’t explain in sheer words how I felt but I was in tears. I took their pictures, bought the pink flowers, bid them goodbye and started my car’s engine. I could see them waving at me till they could see me and vice versa.
I wept as I drove. They literally have nothing to look forward to. No food, no shelter, no clothes, no relations, no support, no help… they have nothing. And yet, they can afford to smile and even giggle and laugh. Why can’t we? We, the elite class, the educated lot, the so-called carriers of our culture and tradition, are the worst lot. We have everything. Then why do we find it so hard to draw that winning curve on our faces. We show off branded items that adorn our body. Why can’t we wear a smile that costs nothing?
I believe that the costliest brand in this mundane life is the ‘smile’. It’s beyond the reach of the selfish, the egoistic, the arrogant, in short, the hollow lot. It’s accessible to the simpletons who love from heart, who can see beauty in the littlest of things, who help without any ulterior motif, who are contented with what they have and to those who value relations.
September 25, 2016 in Children in God's Image!, Hello World!, India, Inspiration, It's your life, Life motivation
Tagged family, flowers, humanity, Life, Love, people, smile
Moms must have heard or even read the book ‘What to Expect When You’re Expecting’. Well, I haven’t read it. Not yet. But, both the times while expecting, I expected to find a good, stylish and unique name for my kids. Finding such names for boys was such a tedious task that I didn’t want to have a boy child. I searched for names that start with an ‘R‘. Why? The name of my father-in-law starts with that letter. My mom-in-law named both her sons Rahul and Rupak because she wanted it that way. She hoped that her daughters-in-law would not break the family chain of names starting with ‘R‘. So, I decided to respect her feelings; hence Raayon and Raynaa.
Raayon : 17th Nov 2008
My son, Sunny, now 4 years old, goes to LKG.
I was so worried on his birth as I could not find a name that would suffice my wish. Then my eldest aunt called me up from Kolkata (West Bengal) to congratulate me. She said “I was trying to find a name for your son that would have both ‘R’ (of Rahul) and ‘N’ (that’s the letter my name starts with). I found it. It’s ‘R A A Y O N’. How’s it?”
Wow!, I mean there couldn’t be a better name so far. All my pain caused by a c-section vanished in thin air. I was eager to know the meaning. She said ” . It’s a Bengali name. Benevolent kings who loved and cared for their subject were given this title.” I liked and locked the name for my son. My father suggested the spelling RAAYON so that people pronounce it the way it should be. Nick of the moment a man came in with the Birth Certificate form. Victoriously we filled up the form without any cloud of doubt on my mind. What a relief it was! God bless you my baby!!!
RAYNAA :3rd July 2012
My daughter, 8 months old, keeps me on my toes.
This time I was well prepared. Thanks to Google. A lot of research went into deciding her name. The criteria were –
- The ‘R’ factor.
- There should be an ‘N’ too.
- Raayon means king so my daughter’s name had to be queenly.
- There shouldn’t be any bold sound of any consonant other than ‘R’ and ‘N’.
Finding a perfect name for my daughter became an obsession. I spent sleepless nights thinking on this matter. My daughter should never feel that I was partial. Kids are very emotional. Even a teeny-weeny name-issue has the potential to hurt their sentiments. So finally, after spending hours in front of my computer screen, without blinking I guess for the fear of missing ‘the’ name, I came across this beautiful name ‘REYNA’(Spanish word for Queen) and ‘RAYNA’ (Russian and Latin word for Queen). Eureka!!!
I preferred the one which starts with R A Y … because my son’s name starts with the same letters. Also,since Raayon has 6 letters I modified the spelling and added another ‘A’ to it. So now it is ‘R A Y N A A’. Their father loved it too.
Most importantly I was happy that both my kids have names that complement each other. Raayon and Raynaa. It also has a little part of their parents into it “R and N”. Love you guys!!! God bless!!!
From Mom To You.
A child means world to the parents. Parents do so much for their kids. Sleepless nights, empty stomach, backaches, headaches are all overpowered by love, warmth and gentle care. And when these kids grow up and act like a wisenheimer, the parents’ hearts crush to smithereens. I comprehend this feeling after becoming a mother myself. Today, when my parents called up to wish a Happy Children’s Day to me, I couldn’t hold back my tears. I, instantly, apologized to them for all my mistakes so far, no matter how big or small. I wept like a small child over the phone as I can’t reach them staying miles away from them. We meet once a year. My parents, however, allayed my guilt assuring me that it was okay. They ‘love’ me no matter what.
Dear kids , love your parents wholeheartedly. You ‘ll not get a second chance once you grow up and become a part of this maddening competitive world. Happy Children’s Day!
According to my personal scrutiny, it’s all about ‘Parvarish’ (Upbringing). If a child’s foundation is laid on moral and spiritual aspects and s/he grows up in an all-loving-and-caring environment, s/he will never go astray. Research has proven the fact that ‘all aspects of a man’s life – his character, sense of responsibility, good and bad habits, ability to cope with difficulties, and his piety – are shaped primarily during his childhood. The bright memories of his childhood can strengthen and warm a man during trying times, and, contrarily, those who have not had a happy childhood can in no way remake it.’
A child is a fine amalgamation of both good and bad inclinations. Parents have to guide their kids with patience and love on how to endeavor against negative influences.
In today’s scenario where both the parents are working to draw the wheels of family, parents must bear in mind the following points:
1. Educate yourself. Read journals and articles relating to your child’s age. Search for what child psychology experts have to say about your child’s developments.
2. Be approachable. Let your child be confident about your unfaltering love and support in testing times. Be your child’s best friend. So that he doesn’t go out in order to seek solace.
3. Induce goodness galore. It might sound like an effortless job. But believe me, it’s not. Your child is but a mirror image of what you are.
4. Be humble. These days all are brand conscious. So I cannot really quote “Simple living” here. But surely though “High thinking” plays an essential role here.
5. Quality time. Give your kids quality time. The hours do not count. It’s the pleasure of your company that is of utmost importance to your kids.
Shun TV and computer games completely when you are with your kids.
6. Share your Childhood. Share interesting incidents of your childhood with your kids. Share your weaknesses as well. Let them know that no one is
perfect. In order to motivate your kids cook up stories and enjoy their laughter and angelic smiles.
7. Mother nature. Go to parks. Just take a stroll. Talk about nature-trees, birds, sky, sun, moon. Do not bring in school or home or any other topic related to day-to-day life.
8. Give space. Teenage is the most sensitive of all the phases of life. Children feel they are now adults and have the authority to make a menace of their life. Don’t worry. This is a passing phase. Your child is stepping into adulthood. Treat him like one.
9. Trust. Trust your kids. Do not underestimate them. It won’t take much time for them to revolt if they smell a bit of mistrust or lack of faith in them in your behavior. Involve them. Take his advice on every matter, no matter how big or small it is. So what if you need his suggestion on the color of the towel you wish to buy. 10. Love selflessly. This doesn’t mean making your kid a spoil brat. They must be shown their boundaries beyond which they cannot go. Love has a mammoth power to conquer all. It can do wonders.
11. Slip into his Shoes. In order to find a solution to any problem, put yourself in his place and try to understand his problem.
12. Respect. Self respect plays a vital role in a child’s life who’s is growing. Discuss any objectionable behavior of your child in private and with him. Do not ever insult him publicly. Believe me, these incidents leave such deep-seated impressions on their mind and soul that is just enough to blow off all your expectations.
I am not an expert in this regard. The above mentioned points are an outcome of my personal experiences and observations. My motif is just to help parents love and understand their children wholeheartedly as well as to provide a guidance to them so that our children get right kind of ambiance for their growth and development. Hoping the best for our kids. All the best.
This morning I discovered a novel side of my child(Sunny) who’ll turn two this 17th Nov. My neighbor had to leave urgently for some work. So she left her daughter(Gini), who turned two on 8th Nov, at my place. She is a sweet-heart. She straightaway went to the toy room and pulled out Sunny’s cycle. Sunny got very happy. Gini then took Sunny’s Buddy (Sunny’s favorite soft toy). In the meantime Sunny sat on his cycle. Gini came hurriedly towards him and pulled his shirt telling him to get down. I was just waiting to see Sunny’s reaction. My child smiled at her, got down and held the handle carefully so as to balance the cycle while Gini sits on it. This was not the end. He pushed the cycle slowly all the while and smiled, giving me sweet side glances. It’s 12:20in the afternoon. Gini is still enjoying the ride and my son is enjoying giving her friend a safe and comfortable ride.
I read in a book that this age is termed as “Terrible two”. But my son defies this making it “Cherishable two” for us. Sunny made us very happy with his arrival, and with his developments he is making us proud. God bless!