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“It’s Your Loss, Not Mine.”

 

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I’m thankful to the tough people in my life. Thankful to those who have hurt me to the core. Thankful to those who made me cry hard. Thankful to those who gifted me sleepless nights drenched in tears. Thankful to those who gave a hopeful flight to me only to crush it later. Thankful to those who didn’t trust me. Thankful to those who doubted my potential. Thankful to those who considered me as a liability. Thankful for the moments when my hard work and sincerity were mocked at. Thankful to those who took me for granted when I cared for them with all my heart. Thankful to those who ignored me when I needed them the most. Thankful to those who accused me of being pretentious when I loved them deeply.

It is because of you that I am what I am today. Had you not shown hatred to me I would have never loved the ones who need it with all my heart. Because I know the pain. I know how much it hurts when you are taken for granted and ignored by those you thought would stand by you.

It is because of you that I tread on the paths unforeseen to discover my hidden potentialities which otherwise would have died a silent death.

It is because of you that I am confident and contented with my own worth. It matters who wishes to stay and it would also matter if someone wants to walk away especially when that someone has been close to your heart.

I love everyone. I am wary of hurting anyone. I am a very good friend and I wish everyone well. If someone finds faults with it then I have just one thing to say, “It’s your loss, not mine.”

IT HAS ALWAYS BEEN YOU AND YOURS ONLY

Life’s just one , right? Also, it’s a battle, a struggle, a compromise. But for who? Who crosses your mind when you say ‘Life is a battle’? It’s those people, who have hurt us, have let us down, those who have made us feel inferior and tried to sabotage our existence into nothingness. In despondence we  question ourselves that all the while when we have been a good Samaritan to others why did they let us down by hurting us to the core tearing us apart into pieces that probably would fail to recoup. But do we really fail to  recoup? Do we give up? Should we allow people to have an upper-hand over us? NO. We don’t. Then whose fight is it anyway? The answer is simple. It’s yours. It has always been yours. Then who benefits from this struggle? It’s you. It has always been you.

Today, something happened and I was urged to admit by a friend that I am short-tempered and that I would work upon it in future. It came like a massive blow to my whole being as a human, as a mother, as a sister and most of all as a concerned friend. This was a shocking revelation not only to me but to the person who knows me the best in the whole wide world… my mother. It’s only a mother who knows her children best. And all I needed today was her certificate of assurance, her encouraging words of motivation and her unconditional love.

In this journey of life all I have perceived so far is that people misinterpret your silence and helpful nature as your weakness. And your opposition to something that’s actually not right as your flaw. The thing is, people have groomed them well enough with all kinds of negative terms to label you with. They will thrash you with their criticism, shred you ruthlessly and then blame it all on you. So, in this situation, what must you do? Succumb to the oppression? Grieve in pain? Accuse your fate? Repent for having undeserving friends? Torment yourself for being betrayed by those who promised to be your pillar of strength especially in times like this when you needed them the most? Dare you do that.

No one has the power to make you feel lowly and worthless without your permission. Cry as long as you want. Get angry on things around. Scream. Do whatever you want to in order to calm you down. And then my dear, as you wipe your tears, do realize one hard fact of life that you are actually all alone in this battle of life. No one cries or screams in pain with you. No one comes to rest a helping hand on your shoulder to say “Don’t worry… I’m there.” It never happens. All you have got to yourself is YOU. 

What you do next is your decision… make sure it’s a wise one.